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More Comments from Readers and CounselorsI am finding this manual SO helpful. I read through a lot yesterday and I started acting like a better person for myself. I have been having a rough time for 5 weeks now, and after reading through the manual yesterday it made me feel a lot better. I now am starting to have a different outlook on a lot of things. I can't wait till my counseling appointment this weekend to talk with my councelor about what I have read so far. Your manual has already made a difference in my life and I really believe that it will continue to make a difference in my relationship with my wife or someone else down the road! R. K., May 2006 “Having counseled couples for over 20 years, I find your manual to be the clearest and most effective guide I know to help individuals heal troubled relationships. Lives have been profoundly changed because of it.” Richard Pancioli, MA “Remember, this is the man who only three weeks ago hadn’t spoken to me in a month and a half except to tell me he wanted a divorce. Now he won’t even say the “d” word and I hope to NEVER hear it again. This Saturday, we are to go to a movie and dinner. I absolutely cannot wait. I can’t believe how much his resistance has softened in just one or two weeks from following your program/advice. The result is REMARKABLE.” Darlene, September 2005 “I also want to say how it can apply to all relationships in a person's life. It is a tool for empowerment.” Deborah Kennard, MS, LLP “The bonus paper is especially helpful to me.” Madalena B., February 2005 “Dear Nathan, Thank you for writing this manual. This is a philosophy that makes me feel good about supporting my husband, my daughter, and myself. Those first three paragraphs on page 11 made me cry... this is exactly how I feel in the moments I am feeling strong and loving rather than being afraid (for me the “lizard brain” is fear). You make so many helpful suggestions. Your suggestions for curious and patient listening helped me make it easier for my husband to talk about his strong feelings during counseling and for me to listen with compassion and love. I will continue to re-read your very wise and positive words. Thank you.” Kathy, May 2003 “I enjoyed our discussion last night. As before, I found it enlightening and motivational. It’s heartwarming to meet people like yourself who help people help themselves.” Ted G., 2005 “Nathan, I thought that you'd like to hear that your Stop Unwanted Divorce book has been a real help to one of my clients. She's a nice gal whose husband is acting like a jerk, but she is applying your principles very well. She may very well get him back but even if she doesn't, she'll be able to hold her head up high. Just today, we had some fun with your ‘reptile brain’ concept. I continue to recommend your manual to my clients, and I would be delighted for you to quote my work and refer folks to my newsletter.” Stan Hibbs, Ph.D., July 2003
“I feel these would be highly appropriate words for my [recovery] group at the present time, and I’m specifically referring to the segment beginning, ‘Self-soothing is an essential personal resource...’ through ‘...I like myself better and others will too.’” Frieda Date “Dear Nathan, I have purchased your online manual, Stop Unwanted Divorce. I have read it many times, and it has been an excellent source of motivation and support for me during an extremely difficult and painful six-month separation from my beloved partner of ten years. I am very interested in trying your phone coaching as well.” Linda P., August 2003 “I have read your manual and am on the early start of recovery from sexual addiction that has adversely affected my life and my relationship with my third wife. I found it to be very powerful material. As part of my recovery, I have begun attending a twelve-step group for sex and love addicts anonymous. With your material and the other material I am absorbing, I hope to not only make a personal recovery but a relationship recovery with my wife, family and friends. Thanks again for you wisdom and insight, and yes you may use my letter on your next revision of your website.” Bill, March 2005 “I have recommended your manual to a number of clients who found it to be an enlightening and practical resource for reviving a troubled marriage.” Mike Kaplan, MSW “I've been to Hell and back this past week. The love of my life finished with me a week ago. We were due to be married in August. Five years together with him constantly showering me in love affection and telling me I am the only one. He now tells me he has fallen for my friend’s daughter and has ended it! I was so so so desperate until I downloaded your manual. I desperately wanted him back but now I can see through what you say that I am worth more than to be treated like this. I have been putting into practice what you say in my communication with him. It's quite hilarious really as he knows I know what he's up to and he knows I've lost all my friends due to his lying and yet I have been the epitome of kindness politeness and understanding towards him. I have been able to step back and see things clearly. I know my attitude may not bring him back, not sure if I want him anyway now! But my own behavior learned from your manual has brought me an inner calm and sure conviction that I am behaving as a decent honest strong and forgiving woman with qualities neither he nor anyone else should be allowed to destroy. Thank you so much.” Julie, 2004 “I found your manual to be very informative and extremely helpful. Your approach is refreshing, logical, and easily understood.” M.J., West Bloomfield, Michigan
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